I believe we will win the culture war and the anger that is bubbling up inside women all over will lead them to the polls or make them want to run themselves. In fact, it's already happening. This anger, this deep anger, is valid. We know that 1 in 3 women are victims of sexual assault. It is as common as rain. We know that false accusations are very rare (studies say somewhere between 3 and 8%). To believe otherwise is to assume women are vindictive and evil and out to get men. Sorry, but we're just not that obsessed with you.
There are a million reasons to believe Blasey Ford and only maybe like one reason to believe Kavanaugh, but here we are acting like their testimonies have equal weight. The aftermath of this mess is trends like #HimToo on Twitter spouting false notions that men are victims of women who have an axe to grind. This is supported by the president who believes it is a very scary time for men right now.
But what if bad men are afraid now? Shouldn't they be? If that's what it takes to protect women, I think all men should treat all women like they have Ronan Farrow on speed dial. Being wary of the opposite sex is something women have been subject to since... forever. Maybe the fear of being outed as a predator and socially ostracized is just the kick in the butt these bad men need. And maybe he should have his life ruined if not in court, then in the public eye because hers certainly is. Note: most sexual predators never face legal consequences for their heinous actions.
So, what can good men do? Well, call out behaviour that you see your male friends do that is sexist or hurtful to women. And also maybe do a little introspection about the process of male bonding. Why does it usually happen at women's expense? If you see a woman walking alone at night, cross the street so she doesn't think you're following her. And if you see someone being a gross perv on the subway, stand up. Your physical presence probably means more and is more compelling than hers. Most of all, you can LISTEN.
In the mean time, here is a cool song I found on the internet!
I CAN’T WALK TO MY CAR LATE AT NIGHT WHILE ON THE PHONE
I CAN’T OPEN UP MY WINDOWS WHEN I’M HOME ALONE
I CAN’T GO TO A BAR WITHOUT A CHAPERONE
AND I CAN’T WEAR A MINI SKIRT IF ITS THE ONLY ONE I OWN
I CAN’T USE PUBLIC TRANSPORTATION AFTER 7 PM
I CAN’T BE BRUTALLY HONEST WHEN YOU SLIDE INTO MY DMS
I CAN’T GO TO THE CLUB JUST TO DANCE WITH MY FRIENDS
AND I CAN’T EVER LEAVE MY DRINK UNATTENDED
BUT IT SURE IS A SCARY TIME FOR BOYS
YEAH GENTLEMEN! BAND TOGETHER, MAKE SOME NOISE
ITS REALLY TOUGH WHEN YOUR REPUTATION’S ON THE LINE
AND ANY WOMAN YOU’VE ASSAULTED COULD TURN UP ANYTIME
YEAH, IT SURE IS A SCARY TIME FOR GUYS
CAN’T SPEAK TO ANY WOMEN OR LOOK THEM IN THE EYES
ITS SO CONFUSING, IS IT RAPE OR IS IT JUST BEING NICE?
SO INCONVENIENT THAT YOU EVEN HAVE TO THINK TWICE
I CAN’T LIVE IN AN APARTMENT IF IT'S ON THE FIRST FLOOR
I CAN’T BE WEARING SILK PAJAMAS WHEN I ANSWER THE DOOR
I CAN’T HAVE ANOTHER DRINK EVEN IF I WANT MORE
I CAN’T MAKE YOU FEEL INVALID, UNSEEN, OR IGNORED
I CAN’T JOG AROUND THE CITY WITH HEADPHONES ON MY EARS
I CAN’T SPEAK OUT AGAINST MY RAPIST AFTER 35 YEARS
I CAN’T BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY IF I'M HOLDING BACK TEARS
AND I CAN’T EVER SPEAK EARNESTLY ABOUT ALL MY FEARS
BUT IT SURE IS A SCARY TIME FOR DUDES
CAN’T TEXT A GIRL REPEATEDLY ASKING FOR NUDES
CAN’T MAKE HER HAVE SEX WHEN SHE’S NOT IN THE MOOD
AND WHAT GIVES HER THE RIGHT TO GIVE YOU ATTITUDE??
YEAH, IT SURE IS A SCARY TIME FOR MEN
GIRLS LIKE TO ACT LIKE YOU’RE TO BLAME AND THEY’RE THE VICTIMS
HER DRESS WAS SHORT AND SHE WAS DRUNK, SHE’S NOT SO INNOCENT
THANK GOD YOUR DAD’S THE JUDGE AND YOU WON’T BE CONVICTED
OH WAIT...THAT’S RIGHT…
IT’S NOT SUCH A SCARY TIME FOR BOYS
THEY’VE ALWAYS HAD THE UPPER HAND, THEY’VE ALWAYS HAD A CHOICE
IT’S TIME FOR WOMEN TO RISE UP,
USE OUR COLLECTIVE VOICE
THE DAY TO VOTE’S NOVEMBER 6, SO LET’S GO MAKE SOME NOISE
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